Say this, Not that

_dolcedocle AlaskoIf you find yourself frustrated dealing with nosy neighbours or a constantly complaining friend you will love Say This, Not That A Foolproof Guide to Effective Interpersonal Communication by Carl Alasko.  Drawing on his more than 25 years of experience counseling couple Alasko offers actual advice on what to say when negotiating through intimate relationships, marriage and parenting. His goal is to keep couples communicating instead of attacking. He sets up common conflict “scenes” and supplies dialogue designed to avoid flight and fight reactions.

 This book is also useful for anyone who has trouble drawing boundaries and saying no. There is an entire section that deals with life’s sticky situations. Alasko has scenarios and strategies for dealing problem people you may meet at work, dating, or in your community.

This book is one of the best people-management manuals I have ever read!




Colour can change your life!

1CYLColour Your Life: How to Use the Right Colours to Achieve Balance, Health, and Happiness by Howard Sun and Dorothy Sun is a comprehensive book about using colour to uplift and change your life. Howard and Dorothy Sun are pioneers in the field of colour therapy. In this very readable book they tell you how to do your “color refection reading.” The book explains the effects of colour in decorating and clothing. The Suns also explain colors in chakra and aura reading. This is an all-inclusive book about color therapy that will help brighten your life.




Ten ways to look fabulous fast!

You don't have to stand on your head, but a few minutes of inversion works wonders! Photo: Jenna LefkfoffDo you feel less than fabulous? Have busy days, stress, and a hectic lifestyle left you with no time to be glamorous? Well darlings, help is here. Just in time for the holidays, here are 10 fast ways to look fabulous. They really work and won’t break the bank or take more than a few minutes. So no more excuses, it is time to look and feel fabulous. You deserve nothing less!

Wash your face
Cleaning your face is a quick pick me up. Removing grime and old makeup makes you look and feel fresh.  If you are in a hurry, use a clean washcloth or a cleansing wipe so you can leave eye makeup untouched. If you have a few more minutes, indulge in a refreshing mask to refine and moisturize your skin. You look like you’ve been to the spa!
Try Olay Daily Facials Express Wet Cleansing Cloths or L’Oreal RevitaLift Radiant Smoothing Wet Cleansing Towelettes.
Elizabeth Grant’s Cucumber Gel Mask contains soothing botanical extracts of cucumber as well Elizabeth Grant’s anti-aging ingredient Torricelumn. I love this soothing and calming mask; it leaves my skin soft, refreshed, and dewy. 
Avène Cleanance Mask helps oily skin look fresh and clear without over-drying it. It contains Avène thermal spring water to soothe skin, botanicals to help regulate skin, zinc to purify, salicylic acid to exfoliate, and kaolin clay to absorb oil and impurities.
Also available in better pharmacies in Canada as well as dermatologists everywhere.
Single treatment Balea masks from Germany and Me-time-treats by Montagne Jeunesse are two of my favourite little indulgences. They are designed as single treatment masques or scrubs, but there is enough in one packet to share with a friend or daughter. Balea masks are found at Shopper’s Drug Mart in Canada and Me-treats can be found online and in many pharmacies. Both sell for about $2 per envelope.
Take a tip from the yogis and stars of the silver screen and reverse your blood flow for a few minutes. Lie down and rest your legs against a wall and rejuvenate. This is a good time to put a mask on your face.
Fluff your hair
A quick spritz of instant shampoo can perk up tired tresses. If you have a few minutes more, mist your hair with plain water and blow it back into shape. You don’t need more product in your hair; the water and the heat from the dryer will reactivate whatever you used when you originally styled your hair. Add more and your hair may become gummy or greasy looking.
If you like lots of volume, invest in electric rollers; they are the pro’s secret weapon for reviving flat hair.
René Furterer Naturia Dry Shampoo is my favourite dry shampoo. Some dry shampoos make hair look good, but your hair still feels grotty. Naturia leaves hair feeling fresh to the roots! Also, try it for any style, if you have hair that collapses. It really does give very fine hair extra staying power.
Add a touch of blush to look fresh and fabulous. Blush lights up your face. Choose a blush to look more luminous and powder blush for dry skin. Get your blush on, darlings!
Here are few of our universally flattering favourites: La Prairie Cellular Radiance Cream Blush in Plum Glow. CoverGirl and Olay Simply Ageless Sculpting Blush in Royal Plum. A pretty golden bronze on your cheekbones will light up your face too. One of the prettiest powder blushes we have found is a warm golden rose by Chanel in Orchid Rose.
Whiten your teeth
There are few things more appealing than a bright, white smile. Whiten your teeth with Crest Whitestrips. They are fast, easy, safe and economical. Crest 3D White 2-Hour Express Whitestrips gives you a noticeably whiter smile in just two hours. I love this product because it works!
I also like Colgate Optic White toothpaste. It contains hydrogen peroxide, the ingredient in whitening strips and whitening mouthwash, and silica, to polish teeth.
Highlight your best features
A touch of highlighter can make you look glam in seconds. Add a touch of highlighter to the inner corners of your eyes or on the top of your brows to play up your eyes. Sweep a hint of “light” on the top of your cheekbones or around the bow of your lips. This how the stars get their glam glow. We love Benefit’s High Beam Luminescent Complexion Enhancer. The shimmery pink liquid is a favourite of makeup artists. We know why – it’s magic.
You can add fresh eyeliner over your existing eye makeup to freshen it up and add drama for evening. Liquid liner can make it pop. Pencil liner is easier to smudge for a smoky look.
For evening try metallic eyeliner. DolceDolce’s Anne Gravel and I are crazy about L’Oreal HiP Color Chrome Eyeliner. We wear it over our regular black matte eyeliner. Anne, who has blue eyes, wears the Silver Lightning. I have brown eyes and wear both the Silver Lightning and Gold Charge.  Ladies who prefer like a less dramatic look may prefer to try Violet Volt or Black Shock Chrome liner. The elegant new Limited-Edition Mary Kay Redefining Elegance Luxury Liner in the slim gold tube has a built-in brush that makes application a snap. You can even draw a thin line of liner close to the lashes.
Play up your lips
If you are really rushed you need nothing more than mascara and red lipstick to look polished.  If red is not your style, then go pale and glossy. The best nudes always have a pink or peach undertone.
Sonia Kashuk’s Matte Lip Crayon in Berry Nude are big crayons that go on fast and stay on. You can buy pricier versions, but I love these for under $10.
Berry Nude is an easy red to wear.  It is clear and soft. Find it at Target stores for less than $8. There is also a pretty pink nude. These crayons are a foolproof fast way to wear red lipstick.
Another trick for quick red lips is to find a flattering red lip liner. Use it to line and fill your lips. Blot and top with balm or gloss. This pro trick also works well with a nude liner, and often looks less flat than many nude lip shades.
Wear colour
Ditch the black and grey! A dress or top in a pretty flattering colour will light up your face and make you look fabulous. Try it.