None of my business

images (3)Click on top title to open “When you’re famous you run into human nature in a raw kind of way,” Marilyn Monroe once said. “It stirs up envy, fame does. People you run into feel that, well, who is she who does she think she is, Marilyn Monroe? They feel fame gives them some kind of privilege to walk up to you and say anything to you, you know, of any kind of nature and it won’t hurt your feelings. Like it’s happening to your clothing.” I wonder what MM would have made of today’s brash world where it seems nothing is considered too rude to say to, or about, another person.I shudder when I think about comments made on Twitter about Kim Novak during the recent Oscars broadcast.  The sheer meanness of it all is disheartening. Goldie Hawn and Ellen Barkin are constantly targeted in the press and on the Internet. Many people think they look beautiful and so do I. But others want to dwell on how they maintain their looks and insist that they have “ruined” themselves with plastic surgery. I think the comments smack of jealously and hypocrisy in a world where beauty, youth, and celebrity are lauded. 

Even beauty magazines seem confused.  A recent issue of Allure featured a cautionary article about women who have “ruined their looks by overdoing Botox and fillers,” but it is followed by several articles on the latest anti-aging techniques offered by plastic surgeons and dermatologists.  

In the anti-injection article the author relates the “aha!” moment she had a rude woman on a New York subway told to get her “F*****ing plastic surgery face out of my face.” The woman yelled this at her when she asked the woman to stop swearing and using abusive gay slurs. I question why and whether any sane person would take to heart the words of bigoted harridan.


Marilyn was on to something. Women indulge in this type of behavior all the time. I am not famous but I have been picked apart and had audacious things said to me. I have a friend who constantly comments on my shoes. I wear very feminine, high heels all the time.  I like them and feel comfortable in them. I never wear shoes that hurt. I can walk miles in my heels. My shoes seem to drive her nuts. She can’t wear heels and that is what really gets under her skin. I get it and I can empathize. But she made me the target of her frustration. She felt she was well within her rights to make any type of remark about my shoes, anywhere, and at any time. Since her stated reason for not being able to wear heels was health-related, I apparently looked mean if I retorted to her nagging. Her tactic was annoying but it would have been worse it she had chosen a more sensitive subject like my face or character. I can’t imagine how celebrities deal with some of the things said to and about them. 

Kim Novak’s look may not be for everyone. I think she looks lovely. She is over 80 and put together. I also think Judi Dench looks just great too, in a different way. I can appreciate both ladies. 

When it comes to Goldie Hawn and Ellen Barkin I think their critics are envious. I am not saying that I think every woman desires to have their look or lifestyle, but happy, confident people don’t need to pick apart someone else. That is a game played by green-eyed monsters.  Others throw barbs at celebrities hoping to attract attention or readers.  Similar scenarios play out in smaller social groups all the time. This is mean and almost always an attempt to cut another woman down to size. 

I had a witty friend who was beautiful, eccentric, and a magnetic for envy. She used to say to critics, “Darling, what you think of me is none of my business.” She was right; the only answer to give to the increasing number of critics one must face is to sweetly say, “Darling what you think of me is none of my business.”


P!nk’s sexy Marilyn inspired do for Valentine’s Day

P!nk’s sexy Marilyn inspired do for Valentine’s Day photo Deborah Anderson
Celebrity hairstylist Marcia Hamilton styled this stunning Marilyn Monroe-inspired image of singer P!nk. Hamilton is the force behind many of P!nk's bold magazine covers and photo spreads. Marcia shares her step by step directions on how to get P!nk’s look as well as the professional products she uses:
Get P!nkʼs Sexy, Marilyn Monroe Inspired Coif:
With P!nk holding orchid flowers in her hands, the styling process started with damp hair, cleansed with White Sands Orchid Bliss Shampoo and Conditioner to enhance this flower theme. Celebrity Smart Tip: "The hot pink mybotto inverted bottle holder seen here allows me to get all of the shampoo and conditioner out of the bottle, even to the very last drop," reveals Marcia Hamilton.
Add a few pumps of volumizing mousse for lift and texture evenly from roots to tips. 
Blow hair dry with a medium-round boar bristle brush.
Clip extension pieces into the crown of your hair, making sure to leave enough out on the perimeters for coverage.
Photo Deborah Anderson



More about Marilyn

Marilyn fans can never read enough about the “blonde goddess” who is even more famous in death than she was in life. Now there is a new book from a super fan. The president of Marilyn’s UK fan club has penned Marilyn Monroe: Private and Confidential. Michelle Morgan’s book contains new, never-before-published photos, as well as more than 50 interviews with friends, family, and associates – including many people who have never spoken on the record before.    
Marilyn Monroe: Private and Confidential in paperback, a Herman Graf Book/Sky horse Publishing, June 2012 includes valuable insights about all aspects of Marilyn’s life, including the schools she attended as Norma Jean Baker, her early marriage to Jim Dougherty, and candid, never-before-seen shots of her on film sets.
This portrait of Marilyn will fascinate even those who feel they know all there to know about MM.