Better choices, better results

Don't just gulp supplements for the best results

Don’t just gulp supplements for the best results

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For as long as I can remember, I have been teased and occasionally berated about being “picky”. I still laugh thinking about the time when my friend Pauline asked me about a recipe. When I told her, “Well, I am a little picky about the type of stock I use,” she just looked at me and said, “What else is new. You are picky about most things.” She was right.

I am picky-choosy about food, restaurants, services, and teachers – and this is why: Over the years I have found that better choices give me better results. It is that simple.

Even if I had an unlimited budget – which I don’t – I have only so much time so I want what works best for me.

I want food to be fresh, seasonal, and healthful. I want to make sure that shopping and cooking is time well-spent.  No beauty treatment will make your skin or hair look beautiful if you don’t feed yourself well. If you don’t really know what your body needs to thrive, see a professional or read up on it. Don’t try a fad fast or gulp down supplements.  Advice you pick up at the health food store or from well-meaning but unqualified people can be harmful and expensive.  Restaurant food can be really bad as it often loaded up with extra salt, butter, and oil, so make sure it is delicious if you are going to splurge on calories.  And if you eat out often, find a place that offers truly healthful, fresh food.

The best isn’t always the biggest or the fanciest-looking either. When it comes to choosing a yoga teacher or professional service I never care about “the trappings,” or what are called “the amenities”.  When I look for a yoga teacher or trainer I want the most inspiring, well-trained, and compassionate professional I can find. I want someone who knows how to push as well when as when to say slow down. I want a sense of humour, experience, and someone I feel is responsible.  I want a lot – and the best teachers give you all of that and more. The time I crave out to work on myself is about transformation, strength, and sweat – it is not about fluffy robes.

I feel the same way about all of my professional services. I care about how my hair and my skin looks .I don’t give a fig if the salon or spa is fancy or famous. Some of the best people who have ever worked on me have done so in very small, simple places or my own home. This was true even when I worked as beauty editor and writer for glossy magazines and newspapers. And sometimes I have found my best people in posh places. But the choice is always based on people not the “real estate”. 

If you are happy with your all of your choices and results you don’t need my help. But if you think you might do better try these tips:

Forget about amenities and look at qualifications. I have never found a really great teacher or trainer working in a studio or gym that wasn’t clean and attractive. You can enjoy your own fluffy robe at home.

Ask your most savvy friends for recommendations but don’t feel pressured to use their people if it doesn’t feel right.

I read Yelp and blogs to find local teachers and salons. I like a wide selection of reviews to help me focus on a few to try. The recommendations in glossy magazines and newspapers are often a result of “relationships” that are not relevant to me and my needs. Also Yelpers will often post photos and answer questions. I love Yelp.

Until you find “the one” for you try many new classes and trainers. I like teachers and trainers who explain and make hands-on adjustments. I dislike what I call “demonstrators”; teachers who simply show the moves and expect you to copy or – worse – simply call out instructions.

Remember, you need a workout destination that is close enough for you to go regularly. Look for a studio or gym close to your home or office.

Use the “rule of three” to make a final decision.

A new stylist who gets your hair right the first time will usually get your hair perfect after three vsits.If  a class, club,  teacher is good the first time you will have a much better idea after three classes if you have a “fit”.

Be picky-choosy. It is your time and money and, more importantly, it is your body.



In the moment!

We love a smart phone to, but to attract love or make a good impression --put down the gadget!Glamour magazine recently asked a hundred men what would turn them off on a first date. The answer may surprise you. Overwhelming, the biggest turn-off was a woman who repeatedly checked her phone for texts and messages.  

I have heard all the excuses that people make about the pressure of work today and needing to be in touch all the time. I don’t buy it.
A lot of the time people spend on their gadgets is recreational or “desperational.” They endlessly update their facebook page, look at status updates of “friends,” and text and trawl as they look for the next “big thing.” These people are so insecure, hungry, and desperate that they can’t look away from their phones for fear of missing “the” text that will change their lives.
This is not an age issue either. One of my friends was afraid to object when   girlfriends texted during dinners together; she thought she would look “old” if she complained. Nonsense! I have popular socially-connected friends in their 20s who can put down their phones to enjoy a meal, performance, or a conversation. I also know socially maladjusted people of all ages who just can’t seem to stay in the moment as they click and tap through any engagement.
For those who are looking for love and waiting for Mr. Right, being text-dependant could even be the kiss of death. If a man they are interested in texts them, are they going to answer him right away? Do they really want to be that available?
Let’s face it, texting is one of the worst things to happen to the dating game. And, the older you are the deadlier it can be. Ask any relationship expert — male or female — and they will tell you the same thing. If a man is really interested in you, he’ll call you and he will ask you out. Men may be shy, lazy, or unsophisticated, but if they meet a woman they want, they usually find a way to ask her out. Don’t let your well-meaning friends tell you differently. But, sitting by your phone or texting endlessly is not the way to get a man to fall for you.
Darlings, be in the moment! Connect with people. Really listen when they talk; you might learn something — or even have a good time. Don’t be guilty of looking over anyone’s shoulders, or gazing down at your phone for messages while you are chatting. People notice you are distracted. I do and it bores me. I avoid hustlers. I can spot anyone who only wants to connect for what I can do for them. I avoid them like the plague. I know my friends feel the same way. Networking with the like-minded can be fabulous, but learn to enjoy conversation for its own sake, or your life will be very limited.
Get interested in things. Read, see films, follow politics, or get a hobby. Get off the phone and offline. Get out and do something. Interested people are interesting.
Do you want to meet someone new and maybe fall in love? Let’s assume you already look fabulous, but are still having trouble connecting. Ask yourself:
When was the last time you learned something new – for fun? Do you challenge yourself? Do you try new things and get out your own routine? If not, you may need a change.
When you dine with friends, do you keep your phone at hand so you can scan for non-essential texts and messages? Well, darlings, I have already told you what a major turn-off that is to everyone.
Ask yourself, are you attracted the guy who is always looking over your shoulder or the one who really focuses and pays attention. What is more compelling? A confident man surrounded by friends and colleagues, or a guy who is in the moment.

Thick or thin

Gracey hitchcockDarlings, it really doesn’t matter what shape you’re in – thick or thin, life is never about being a size. But you need to feel healthy and vibrant. Knowledge is power; learn all you can about eating and living well. Life is too short not to be sweet.

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