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I am no great fan of the Kardashian clan and their so-called “oeuvre”. I don’t understand their appeal and I think they set a dangerous example. But I am equally confused at the media outrage over a picture Kim tweeted from her latest photo shoot for Paper magazine.  In the shot, Kim has her famous butt exposed.


As nudity goes it is tame.  The magazine had photographer Jean-Paul Goude recreate his famous photograph “champagne incident” a photo of  a model balancing a champagne glass on her butt. The original photo is a nude. For the cover Kardashian is dressed in skin tight retro gown. The semi-nude she posted is from the same shoot.  It is a striking photograph but it is nowhere as striking as the original “champagne incident” that featured a lithe, black model balancing the champagne glass nude against a vivid blue background. It seems too contrived – not unlike Kardashian and the so-called controversy.  Some media-types feel that “as a mother” Kim K shouldn’t have done the photo. The complaint is disingenuous and downright ignorant.  Kim Kardashian’s career 123kIMK.jpgwas launched by a sex tape. She posed for nude for Playboy Magazine. She has made a fortune with her family documenting her entire life on television. And all of this is captured on the Internet forever, and anyone who works in the media knows it.  The idea that an elegantly posed nude will somehow traumatize her daughter, or that being a mother somehow makes a very tame nude scandalous, is absurd. This is the type of ridiculous conversation that hurts all women. It is related to “slut-shamming”. Worse it is trivializes more serious issues such as a woman’s right to her own identity as mother.  I don’t admire the Kardashians or their behaviour. But no one, especially other women, can afford to speculate about a woman’s right to her own identity just because she is a mother.  Make time for the things you enjoy and the people you love because, my darlings that is truly where the sweet life lies.  DolceDolce is free. Please forward us to all your friends. And please follow us on Facebook at . We post new items and tips weekly, except during our posted hiatuses several times a year. Please send us your comments by emailing us at the same address, or sharing in Facebook. We will respond! We want to know what you think. Let’s start the conversation!   Until next time, have a sweet week and please follow us on Facebook     We would love to hear from you. Tell us what you think.   Gracey Hitchcock Editor, DolceDolce Follow me @graceysays All contents copyright © 2014    


Used and used up…

Mimi Alford has burst out of nowhere to tell us of what she says was her 18-month affair with then-President John F. Kennedy. But her sordid tale, camouflaged in her soothing voice, is really the cautionary tale of an unrepentant groupie who implies it’s just fine to use and be used. 

"I was sort of swept into this web," she told Meredith Vieira in an interview on NBC’s Rock Center with Brian Williams.
Alford presents herself as refined and soft-spoken. She impresses her interviewers as being genuine and intelligent. She recounts the scandalous details in her strangely-bewildered, grandmotherly tone. "I don’t think what I did at 19 was bad," she tearfully told Vierra. "I’m remembering how enthusiastic I was and how much fun I was to be with. "I wasn’t after anything. I was not after a job. I was just a young girl." 
She later told Barbara Walters that her family stood behind her decision to write her tell-all story. You can almost hear her patting the wrists of her two probably shocked daughters; ‘there, there, everything will be all right.’

 There is little reason to doubt that the affair actually happened. Jack Kennedy was no choirboy. His great accomplishments aside, he was sexually shameless and blameworthy.

 But for her part, Alford is either hopelessly naïve or as deceitful as a cold war triple-agent. I suggest the latter.

To this day, a proud Alford says she doesn’t regret the affair. She told Vierra she would do it all again because it was just "too much fun," even though she describes performing oral sex on one of Kennedy’s aides at the president’s request; "a dare I shouldn’t have taken."
It is easy to see how a glamorous, young, good-looking president could dazzle a 19-year-old girl, but it is hard to believe that being passed around like a six-pack of beer would not bring a sheltered, educated college girl to her senses. Apparently, it didn’t.
Many interviewers, with the exception of Ms. Walters, have been accepting and sympathetic to Alford’s story. Many have even suggested she may have been raped at the White House, a claim Alford vigorously denies.
Barbara Walters has emerged as Ms. Alford’s harshest interrogator. She repeatedly questioned Alford’s motivations for writing the book. This is rather interesting, given that Walters’ wrote and profited from her own tell-all, in which she admits to having had affairs as a young woman with her married-but-divorcing TV boss, a married caterer, and a married politician.
Walters was once equally harsh on Jessica Hahn. Hahn denies having had an affair with a married TV evangelist (he says it was consensual; she says she was drugged and dated raped). She later posed for Playboy. While appearing on The View, she mentioned Walters’ own dalliances. "This is about you, my dear" Walters intoned dismissively.
Well, this is about them all.
I too, wonder why Ms. Alford has chosen now to write this book. Alford claims she wanted to tell the story "of a secret that coloured her entire adult life." I’m not sure I buy it.
All the time she was having her clandestine affair she was also basking in the glamour of White House. Did she seek the attention of "leader of the free world" and relish the limos, planes, and access to the "inner circle"? Is this book an attempt to recapture some of that excitement and attention?
We live in a culture where women such as Kim Kardashian and Snookie amass fortunes from exposing their sexual and emotional "secrets". The multimillion-dollar ‘Kardashian Empire’ is built on Kim’s notoriety due a leaked sex tape. Her friend Paris Hilton also garnered fame and launched two TV shows and a product line from her sex tape scandal.
Mimi Alford has had a successful life. She married twice, raised a loving family, and had a successful career. She now has a book that, thanks to media attention, should sell fairly well.
Most young women who make sex tapes or let rich men use them as playthings will not do as well as Alford and the Kardashians. Most will end up used up. It is dangerous for them to believe otherwise.
What bothers me is how the media depict Mimi Alford, Paris Hilton, Snookie, and Kim Kardashian to young women.
I have heard countless interviewers and commentators paint Alford as a victim. While President Kennedy treated Alford deplorably, she was willing. She had many advantages; she was well educated and obviously smart enough to get to coveted White House internship. 
Many attractive young women in Washington and the White House avoided the well-known, lecherous atmosphere of President Kennedy and his cronies. Just as today, many young women have love affairs and successful careers without the benefit of dangerous liaisons and scandalous sex tapes. Others seek and cultivate this kind of infamy.Painting Mimi Alford as blameless is dangerous. It is as damaging as when interviewers fawn over Kim Kardashian and her family, as if the millions they have made redeem their essentially exploitative enterprise.   


Most young women who make sex tapes or let rich men use them as playthings will not do as well as Alford and the Kardashians. Most will end up used up. It is dangerous for them to believe otherwise.


Are you dreaming of having Kim Kardashian’s derrière?

Dr. Matteo TaerriFor years women have sought breast implants, or bought bust-enhancing lingerie, to give them the full up-lifted bosoms of their favourite stars. Now women covet the shapely backsides of Kim Kardashian and Pippa Middleton. Diet and exercise can go a long way to shaping an attractive derriere, but some women still want more.

So went we went to Dr. Matteo Taerri to get the lowdown on the Brazilian Butt Lift. The popular procedure uses a patient’s own fat to augment their derrière. Dr. Taerri tells us how it’s done and what to expect.
Remember, cosmetic surgery is still surgery and carries risks. Choose your doctor carefully, do your research, and get personal recommendations from friends.
And here’s the all you need to know about the Brazilian Butt Lift.
DD: What is the Brazilian Butt Lift?
Dr. T.:  It’s an autologous fat transfer procedure. (Autologous means the same person is the donor as well as the recipient of the fat.) It allows men and women to enhance their buttocks to a more voluptuous and well-curved contours without the surgical insertion and large incisions of foreign implants. It also removes cellulite and tightens the butt skin. It is a more natural alternative than buttock implants.
Most patients prefer using their own fat to add volume and shape to their buttocks. And there is the added bonus of slimming their waist, back, or thighs. The procedure reshapes and refines the key areas of the buttock for increased volume, aesthetically pleasing projection, curvature, and proportion. Fat grafting assures lasting results and gives a very natural shape and feel to the buttocks.
Kim KardashianDD: How is it done?
Dr. T.: Excess fat from one or more parts of the body is removed by liposuction under local anesthesia. The abdomen, hips, back, and thighs are common donor sites. The liposuction is done with tiny canulas.
Fat cells are removed from and then they are re-inserted into different layers of the buttocks through very small incisions.
The procedure is performed totally under local anesthesia and takes about one to two hours. Also, fat transplantation minimizes the risk of your body rejecting the fat cells. The amount of fat you can have transferred from donor site to your buttocks will depend on your individual aesthetic goals. The ultimate results will usually appear smooth because we use a few small incisions while evenly distributing the fat cells.
DD: How long does the recovery take?
Dr. T.: There is very little overall discomfort which is easily handled by Tylenol. Patients are able to sit a few days after buttock augmentation surgery and typically return to work within several days, if their work involves prolonged sitting.
Patients need to wear a compression garment for up to two weeks, and can resume regular exercise after two weeks. Postoperative treatments are used to alleviate minor pain, smooth the results, remove cellulites, and speed recovery. A percentage of the fat will disappear during first two months, and the ultimate results will be evident after eight weeks.
Dr. Matteo Taerri is board-certified by the American Academy of Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine. He is an active member of the AmericanAcademy of Aesthetic Medicine, the AmericanAcademy of Cosmetic Surgery, the American Society of Anesthesiology, and the WorldAnti-AgingAcademy of Medicine.

The lash-master

Stephen MoleskiHollywood makeup artist Stephen Moleski is the lash-master — the man celebrities flock to when they need to look stunning on the red carpet. 

Moleski created his own line of affordable but luxe lashes that are hit with Carrie Underwood, Kim Kardashian, Jennifer Hudson and Marcia Cross. Carrie Underwood even had him design custom-made lashes for her wedding.
His Smoke and Mirrors Beauty lashes feature a lightweight, flexible band that is also invisible. They come in seven different styles, all uniquely-designed after the cities Stephen has worked in. We had Stephen share his glam secrets in this exclusive interview.
DD:  What makes Smoke and Mirrors lashes different?
SM: We have custom 100 percent human hair eyelashes that are crafted on a silicone band. They all have an individual eyelash effect, as opposed to the usual heavy black band.

DD: Is there a trick to applying lashes yourself? What is the best way to put them on?
A trick is to do one light layer of mascara on your real lashes so they stiffen up just a tad. Then place the lash (with glue on) onto your lash line. It is easier to place with that one light coat of mascara. Let it dry. Once completely dry, apply mascara as you normally would to blend your lashes and the S&MB lash together.  
Stephen glams up Kim KardashianDD:  When should you apply lashes: before or after your liner and shadow?
I recommend for the beginner to put them on before anything. That way you know what you are doing and you don’t risk messing up your eye makeup.

DD:  how do you choose the best lashes to suit your eyes – or for an occasion?
All of the SMB lashes will work depending on your needs. You need to take into consideration of length your eye shape and the length you are comfortable with. Kim Kardashian loves the Vegas lash for its length and feathering effect, whereas Carrie Underwood goes for a softer, fuller lash like the Nashville.
DD: How many times can you wear a pair of lashes?
You can wear my lashes about two to four times depending on how you apply them and what amount of glue and mascara you use.
Atlanta housewife Kim Zolciak loves my Atlanta lash and wears them every day, reusing each pair several times.
DD:  How do you do a smoky eye?
As king of the smoky eye — a lot of practice and blending!  It also is about understanding the shape of your own eye because each eye is different.  Keep it simple with color choice, and don’t use more then two or three colors when developing your look. Always start with an eye shadow primer for a base. Primers are so underrated, but are the key to flawless beauty. You need a good base to achieve the perfect smoky eye, just as you would put a primer on your nails before the color, or a moisturizer on your face before the concealer. Use the dark eye shadow color and apply generously to your eyelid, close to your lash line and blend upwards. I often feather out and go more dramatic towards the ends of the eyes for a more dramatic look, which is great for night time. Use your second color from the inner corners of your eyes to about the middle, and blend them together so that the hues are fluid. Adding a brow highlight color also draws attention to the eye… a must!
DD: How do you get that luminous lovely look?
With great skin care for starters. All of my clients use After skin care, it is using bronzers and highlighters to enhance the skin. They enhance your natural skin’s glow. A mistake people make is when they go to get their face foundation color matched at a retail make-up store, they ask for the color that matched the skin on their face, which is almost always at least two shades lighter than their neck, shoulders, and rest of their bodies. You should match the color to your neck color so there is an even overall finish. Bronzers are great for the cheeks, but be careful not to overdo it!
DD: Which Lash is for which occasion?
On my website we have an easy-to-use breakdown of the different personalities of each lash. Many of my clients are also CEOs and execs of major companies, in addition to being TV and film stars, so they need a lash that can be worn during the day for meetings. The
New York lash is great for that, as they are a little shorter, but still make a world of difference when they’re on. When you want to go out on the town and you’ve got your best dress on, the Hollywood lash is dramatic without being over-the-top. The Chicago lash is great for those who are used to more of a traditional-looking lash. And of course, the limited edition Heart lash is great for those big special events, such as red carpets and weddings.

DD: What is the best way to wear lashes without looking like I’m wearing fake lashes, especially in the day time?
Slap on a pair of any from the line with no makeup and clear glue and see that they are even perfect for daytime. Many of my clients are Hollywood business executives who wear my lashes to their board meetings and events during the day and at night. These lashes were designed with the everyday woman in mind. When you apply the lashes, just be careful and apply them as close to the lash line as possible, not above, so the invisible line disappears even more. If you glue them too high, that’s when they’re detectable.

For more about Stephen or more tips:

A portion of every lash sale goes to help Heather’s Hope, a charity that helps children affected by many illnesses including HIV and various forms of cancer. Stephen is also working with Mel B on her new reality show Mel B: It’s a Scary World.

Fabulously Flawless

Cold winter air and overheated rooms can drain the moisture from your skin leaving it looking dry and ashy. Even if you apply your make-up flawlessly, it can look cakey and tacky after only an hour or two.

Elizabeth Grant’s Beautiful Colours Finishing Touch makeup primer is a sophisticated blend of moisturizing Torricelumn, silicones, and Vitamins A, C, and E that seals in moisture. It also fills in fine lines, imperfections, and creates a perfect canvas for makeup. It leaves make-up looking fresh and flawless for hours.
Try it and find out why it’s a favourite of celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Rosario Dawson, Natasha Beddingfield, Haylie Duff, and Jessica Biel. It’s one of my must-have products. $30

Glossing to perfection

Lipfusion Infatuation by Fusion Beauty Lipfusion Infatuation by Fusion Beauty actually encourages your own lips to get plumper and helps perfect your pout. The secret is Amplifat, a concentrate from sea fern, that triggers two proteins found naturally in the body that encourage the diffusion and storage of fatty acids. Infatuation also contains a special compound to instantly plump and hydrate lips. 

Infatuation gives lips an instant sexy shine while it plumps and hydrates. It comes in six sexy shades from nude to several baby pink shades to make a skimpy pout perfect. 



Uplift through beauty

Margot and Elizabeth Grant support Wear White for WindfallJanuary 28th is WW4W Day, when Torontonians are asked to wear something white and donate $4 to raise awareness about poverty. WW4W, or “Wear White for Windfall” refers to a registered charity called Windfall Clothing Service, Canada‘s only new-clothing and basic-needs bank. It distributes unused garments and other necessities free of charge to Toronto’s neediest citizens through partnerships with 90 social service agencies.

Throughout January, fundraising initiatives take place around the city to raise money in support of the WW4W campaign. Elizabeth Grant International has made a month-long commitment to the vital cause. It’s donating 50 percent of the proceeds from its January sales of its Finishing Touch Make-Up Primer.
Elizabeth Grant Finishing TouchCelebrities and Hollywood make-up artists adore this primer. It helps you achieve a porcelain-finish and a healthy fresh glow. Kim Kardashian, Rosario Dawson, Natasha Beddingfield, Haylie Duff, and Jessica Biel are fans. Now you can try this fabulous product and help a fabulous cause too. Don’t miss our review next week of this amazing product. It is one of the best we have seen!
"No one grows up dreaming of living on the streets, and that is why we give back,” says Margot Grant, Public Relations and Marketing Manager of Elizabeth Grant International. “This is the third consecutive year that Elizabeth Grant Skin Care has taken part in the WW4W campaign and we are proud to help raise funds and awareness about Windfall’s anti-poverty work."
New clothing and a helping hand are essential to the self-esteem of those facing tough times. Please support this important initiative.